Sunday, 27 March 2016


As usual, March 2016 CHIC CHAT did not disappoint. Chic Chat is powered by Pastor Chineze Okeke popularly called Mummy Chi. She is the wife of the Senior Pastor of the Father’s church. It is a non denominational monthly meeting of women open to singles and married which holds on the last Saturday of every month.

According to Pastor Okeke, the inspiration for CHIC CHAT came from 2nd Corinthians 1 verses 3 and 4; ‘Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation that we may comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

She wants a meeting where sisters can freely use their lives and experiences to minister and encourage other women. CHIC CHAT has proved to be this and more. It is always a time for revelations and frank talks. 

It is therefore not surprising that one of the most important sessions is the period when women go round to hug and appreciate each other thus promoting comradeship.

According to Pastor Chineze, based on the instruction from God, she does not take offering. The food and the refreshments served at every gathering were freewill offering from those who are partnering with her because they love the fellowship. She urged more women to partner with CHIC CHAT fellowship. 

The March meeting which held on Saturday the 26th was fairly well attended despite the fact that a lot of women took advantage of the Easter Holiday to travel.

The meeting began with opening prayers by Mrs. Adeyinka Molekor followed immediately by a powerful praise and worship.

Sister Id Ekpo led into prayer session which saw everyone in a frenzy because of the prayer topics which centred on making marriages honourable, blissful and fruitful. Prayers were also said for the singles desiring to marry in accordance with the will of God.

It was now time for the talks. Three women of God who were professionals in their own rights spoke on different areas affecting women. Though each speaker was given 15minutes but because of how well they delivered their papers, people were willing to stay longer.

The first speaker was Dr. Chiemezie Anyanwu. Dr. Anyanwu is an optometrist.  She is a deaconess and coordinator of welfare department of her church- The Father’s Church.

She is a Rhema Bible Training Institute graduate and currently their coordinator of their Nigeria Healing school.

She is the CEO of Claire’s cakes & More Ltd. She is passionate about helps and marriage ministries.

Her hobbies include reading, baking, cooking and fashion designing. She is married to a lawyer Uche Anyanwu and they have 5 children.

She talked about the right communication in marriage and advised the women to discover their own personality types and their husbands. She emphasized as follows;

    Communication is a skill
·        Nobody is born a communicator.
·        We can all learn how to be effective communication in order to get better at it.
·        The whole point of communication is to be understood.
·        Communication must be a 2 way
·   Onus is on the person who wants to be understood to find a way to pass the communication after a good meal or sex or whatever works for them.
·       One must not let one’s emotion to get the better of them so as not to be communicating the wrong thing; anger for example.
·        Man’s greatest need is respect.
·  Voice modulation is important if you want to communicate better because in communication, it is not so much as what you say but how you say it.
·        Couples are teammates not competitors.
·      Cause of conflict is usually not the one who initiates communication but the one who responds to it.
·     Principle of physical touch means you cannot have an issue with someone you are touching as touch diffuses tension.
·      Effective communication takes into consideration the principle of proper timing to initiate a conversation.
·        One must not conclude on what they thought they heard.  Always ask again to confirm.
·        To the unmarried, how do you present yourself to the public?
·     If everything fails, pray because prayer has been known to change the most difficult man.

Before the next speaker spoke, Pastor Mrs. Okeke stated that everyone should consider communication her responsibility.

The second speaker was Deaconess Ivy Adi-Elekwa. She is a graduate of law from Abia State University and a former Miss Abia State university. She is the Acting GM Company Secretary/Legal of PHCN and held this position since 2012. She is well versed in contracts agreements and oil and gas expert.

She spoke on the theme, who is the bread winner in a home? She stated as follows that;
·        God is the sole provider because He is the source if every income.
·        Human beings are just caretakers of resources.
·        A woman is a help meet
·        Bible asked husbands and wives to submit one to another in everything.
·        Whatever you are doing is a service or worship to God.
·     Women must seek for the grace of God to enable them submit in the area of their finances.
·        Women must emulate the woman in Proverbs 31.
·        God will always reward every woman who has made sacrifices for her home.

The third speaker was Mrs. Funmi Ilamah is the acting Head of Kingdom Resources of Department of The Father’s Church. She is the leader of the women empowerment programme of the Queen’s fellowship of The Father’s Church.

Career wise, she is a financial management, strategy, business and institutional development specialist with 30 years’ experience.

She is currently a consultant and managing partner of Management Strategy Advisory Ltd. She obtained a BA (HONS) History and master’s in Business Administration (MBA) from University of Lagos respectively. She is a Fellow of Institute of Chartered Accountants of Nigeria and a Fellow of the Chartered Institute of Management Accountants UK.

She spoke on Overcoming marital issues.
·        Marriage as an institution was ordained by God and there was nothing that God cannot fix in any marriage.
·        To overcome marital issues; people must learn to walk in love, obey the word of God and exercise Authority.
·        Agape love leads you to true forgiveness not the ‘I have forgiven but cannot forget’ type of forgiveness.
·        It is also not easy to practice walking in love but with God all things are possible.
·        Listen to Godly counsel
·        Abide by 1Cor. 13 which is the kind of love we must walk in.
·        Women must hear God through His word while researching the bible.
·        As Christians, we must understand the authority we have in Christ.
·        We must resist the devil as one way of overcoming marital issues.

Because the time was far spent, there was no opportunity to take contributions or questions and answers.

The meeting came to an end with Pastor Okeke admonishing the women to walk in love as love covers a multitude of sins. She said women need to understand how to love their way to victory.

The meeting ended with closing prayers by Barbara Abadom.

Women were sad to see the meeting come to an end but like it is always said, what has a beginning must have an end.

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